Wednesday, May 27, 2009

the ebb and flow of life

Sometimes life really throws me for a loop. I can be lying in bed, half on my way to falling asleep when I get a telephone call. Then, 2 hours later, I've been smacked in the face with the loss of probably my closest guy friend (save for my wonderful and amazing boyfriend) in the world. I was told that his current girlfriend is uncomfortable with the close friendship that we share. She didn't actually ask him to stop talking to me, but as I see it, there really wasn't another choice when it came down to it. So many ironies in this situation, not the least of which is that I'd just started to come to terms with the fact that he didn't have as much time for "hanging out" (via email and telephone) as we'd enjoyed in the previous 4 years of our friendship, only to have this come up. I wonder how all of the struggle and frustration was pointless. I wonder if this is really the best thing to do. Even though it's sort of tearing me apart, I decided that I'm going to go along with this, for him, for her, because I feel called to make that sacrifice. If I can be helpful to them in this way, then that's what I'm going to do. I'm going to be angry and hurt and a complete wreck for a while, I have no doubts, but I look forward to learning why this is all happening, whenever it comes out.
I wish you all the best, ML.

3 comments:

Abby said...

Boo Hiss. That sucks. I hope she gets over herself. Honestly, I wouldn't date someone who had that kind of jealousy going on.

Laura said...

I guess the million dollar question is, "Why would you date someone who doesn't trust you with talking on the phone with a girl who has a boyfriend and lives two states away?" Seriously, you're taking this a lot more nobly than I would. I'd be pissed. You don't treat friends like that and you don't let jealous psychopaths tell you what to do, either.

Tanha said...

sorry I'm just getting to comment on this...I agree with the other comments. you are taking it better than most, at least what I can tell over the internet. keep your chin up and maybe later on down the line if you both want to you can work on the friendship again.